We all like a chase right? We all know ” anything worth having is worth working hard for”, but when does this turn into a systematic, repetitive blunder? When do we get tired of the game and start being real with each other about our true feelings and emotions? 

 

The games will never end. Ladies, if you want a guy, do not be too easily accessible.  Make him call you a few times before you pick up.  Make him miss you from time to time.  Disappear for a few days, because if it’s one thing that’s true “absence makes the heart grow fonder”. 

 

From my own experience I’ve learned that just like how a girl wants a guy even more when she can’t get him the most, guys feel this way too about women.  We KNOW males always want to feed their ego, thinking that any girl they want they have to get, so why not make him work for you? No matter how hard it is to ignore his phone calls, his text messages, or even his IMs, just do it. Trust me, if he wants you he’s gonna keep trying!

The DO’s && DONT’s

Be yourself just with a few tweaks;

  1. Never, make out on the first date. Kissing is fine, but just give him a taste of what is in store if he acts right.
  2. Don’t be shy or timid, guys love confident women. Even if you don’t think you got it going on, girl fake it ’til you make it! one thing I know he’s buying it.
  3. Never call him after you guys hang out, wait for him to call you.
  4. Have him spend some type of money on you, even if it’s paying for you to get on the bus. If he pays that means he’s not scared to spend on you and he ain’t cheap!
  5. Do not pick up the first time he calls you. Make sure you end the first 2 conversations.
  6. Remember be simple in the way you dress, no excessive makeup your confidence will make you shine.
  7. GET TO KNOW HIS FRIENDS! if you don’t have a good relationship with them, there is no you && him.
  8. Do not compliment him, if he’s cocky, what’s the use of you telling him he looks good, shit he already knows it! However, always take a compliment gracefully.
  9. Do not be scared to tell him no, shut his ass down sometimes but before you do give him just a little taste. He’s gonna want more.
  10. If your game is tight, you can have sex with him early however the longer you wait the more stronger your relationship will be.
  11. Do not point out your flaws, the more you talk about it, the more he will notice them. HUGE turnoff.
  12. Test his limits, flirt with a few guys in front of him. Now don’t go off into hoochieland, just do it subtly this will make him realize that yes you have options and he better step his game up to impress you.
  13. Generalize the conversation instead of saying “I this…” make it a general statement like “People should” this makes you seem less self-centered and gives him an opportunity to speak on the subject if he’d like.
  14. Ladies, a man does not like jealousy. Maybe a bit, but do not go overboard with it, if he checks out a girl’s ass && you catch it make him know you saw it, but do not go “no more wire hangers” on his ass!
  15. If he won’t lick the kitty cat, then you can’t rub his head with your tongue. It’s a two way street.
  16. Webbie said it, Ne-Yo sang it “I-N-D-E-P-E-N-D-E-N-T” don’t always hang with him, and be able to take care of yourself, no one likes a free loader.
  17. You gotta have a sense of humor, laugh show him a good time.
  18. NO matter how much of a “hood star” he claims to be, they love romance
  19. You have to have attitude, he cannot run all over you, because then he will run in you and out of you just as fast as you met him.
  20. If you’ve been with over 5 men, to your new prospect you’ve ONLY been with 5. No one wants the chick that’s been with his boys, his boys’ boys, and his boys’ boys’ boys and so on! 

Miscellaneous

Keep your feet looking good, you don’t know who got a foot fetish! Last thing you want is a banging body, then he gets to your feet it look like you was running through the cotton fields of Georgia.

Try to have soft smooth skin, if you need you a bottle of Jergens, some baby oil, or cocoa butter please invest in this! The simple things do count.

Make sure you shave, what you do down in your pleasure area is your business, but make sure your legs and underarms are hair free. No one wants to see the bush under your arm pits when you raise your hand, especially not him!

Do not step out the house looking like Punkie Bruster with all the colors of the rainbow on and no sense of style. Make sure your outfit is flattering to your body and that you feel comfortable in what you are wearing!

 

Peace && love, happy dating and remember it’s only been 5 : )